There Should Be More High-fiving During Sex

Photo by Standret on Adobe Stock

Photo by Standret on Adobe Stock

We laid next to one another on the rumpled sheets, both still breathless from our synchronized orgasms. Hubby's body turned towards mine; one leg draped over me.

“Good job,” I said, raising my hand.

“Yeah, you too,” Hubby slapped my hand as though we’d just finished a 5K.

There should be more high-fiving during sex.

Celebrate everything

Life should be as full of celebrations as it is sunrises. Every single day there is something to celebrate - even if it’s just a sunrise or the fact that you woke up that morning. Living in gratitude is good for our mental health, and so are orgasms. So, if you combine appreciation and orgasms, it’s probably even more powerful, right?

When you’re in a long term relationship, there will be sexual experiences that are maintenance sex designed to fulfill a need for closeness. These aren’t all going to be rockstar sessions. If you have young kids, most of the time, you’ll be sneaking a quickie in between their bedtime and the time you pass out from exhaustion. But, if you and your partner both achieve orgasm, or you both had a good time without orgasm - celebrate. You took the time to nurture your relationship, be proud of yourselves. 

It’s an athletic event

I’ve never witnessed a little league game where the teams leave without high fiving each other. The sidelines at a football game overflow with sweaty men high-fiving each other and Olympic coaches high-five their athletes after an event. We celebrate athletic events with high-fives and, if you’re bumping and grinding until you work up a sweat, you deserve a high-five.

Feedback is important

You need to let your partner know what’s working for you and what isn’t. If your partner gives you the blowjob of a lifetime - the kind that starts slow, builds with intensity, and involves lots of tongue action as well as the use of both hands, congratulate them!

Vagina having people, if your partner uses just the right technique on your clit and slips a finger inside at the perfect moment to make you explode, let them know. A high-five is always an appropriate way to let someone know you appreciate their efforts.

What’s more, high-fiving is acceptable in a casual, FWB relationship where a heartfelt discussion about preferred techniques is a bit uncomfortable. If you’re getting a high-five after providing pleasure, you’ll know that your partner appreciated your methods and would like more of it the next time opportunity presents itself.

Molly Frances

Molly Frances is a sexuality and erotica writer. She explores non-monogamy, bisexuality, and female sexual empowerment. 

https://www.sexwithmolly.com
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